Thursday, August 25, 2011

Does the World Really Need More Heroes?


            As everyone who goes to church with me, I was the multimedia guy, the A/V geek, the computer nerd, the lightning rod of hate for everything that goes wrong with anything with a microchip in it. I was the guy who sat in the back and ran the sound and computer. It is not a glamorous job but it is something that needs to be done, I think.
            What I liked about the job was that I got to be the hero on occasion. Every once in a while, someone wanted to add a map of Thessalonica, a picture of the Masada (the fortress, not the gun), or a song they heard on the radio. I would spring into action with my cape flying, using my iPhone to download it, then synching it to the church laptop using my handy-dandy phone synch cord which I kept in my AV accessory belt, formatting it, and then adding it to the presentation with seconds to spare before the start of the service. The not-so tech savvy would be awed at my abilities and technical prowess. “Good thing we have Dave back there. What would we do without him? Who would get us that obscure version of “How Great Thou Art” by El Vez?
            And that is the problem. Instead of fixing the problem by showing them how to do it themselves, I wanted to be the hero for them. I am pretty sure there are quit a few “heroes” running around in our churches, keeping their skills, knowledge, talents, or money to themselves until the last minute so they can save the day with a flourish. What we need instead is the everyday citizen who gives all they have without fanfare or fame because it is those people who seem to have a better understanding of who the real hero of our redemption story is. 

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Lost in Translation....almost


           I met Maggie at work while in Pulandian, China. She had come up from Shang Hai to watch our work and write a report for her boss. She told me her real name, her Chinese name, and it was unusually unpronounceable. I asked her why she picked Maggie for an “American” name, she told me she didn’t her boss picked it for her because he couldn’t pronounce her name either.
            We began discussing families, she told me about her parents who both worked in the Chinese aerospace industry but in different aspects. While we were talking, a large military fighter jet roared overhead, returning to the nearby Chinese Air Force base. “My Dad helped design those jets” she told me proudly, as close to boasting her quiet reserve would let her get. I was impressed and tried my best to convey it.
            She asked about my family. I told her about my parents who are both retired teachers. I told her about my brothers and sisters and how the six of us kept my parents busy. I told her about my nieces and nephews, all 9 of them, and how they were an amazingly ethnic cross section. Then I told her about my own children, all six of them. I told her how proud I was of each one of them and how they were each so special to us.
            “You are very rich to have such a large family” she told me.
            “No, not really, I would not say we are rich” I replied, thinking about our middle income household where we do alright, but I wouldn’t consider us to be “rich”.
            “You don’t understand, I think you are very rich to have such a large family,” she repeated.
            “Oh”, shallow me replied, “you are absolutely right. I am very rich to have such a family.” I am rich beyond my wildest dreams. 

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Here I raise my Ebenezer...


         I don't think anyone else would call Memphis International Airport an "Ebenezer", except me. To me, each trip through Memphis International (MEM in airport speak) is an emotional walk down memory lane. To me, MEM is a place where I remember the wonder and awesome power of God working in our lives. MEM is a place where I am reminded of the help, comfort, and provision of God.
         In order to explain I have to set the way-back machine to 2006 when our adoption paperwork was done, our dossier was in country, and every day could be "the day" when we would get "the call". As the days and months went by, the thought of our "babies" spending another night in an orphanage became more and more painful.
         During this time I was traveling for work quite a bit. I found myself imagining what the day would be like when we finally brought our babies home from Kazakhstan. When I would land in Memphis I would found myself fighting back the tears of one more arrival home without them. It was always bitter sweet to be home again with my wife and kids, but still missing one piece.
         It was during one of the long walks from the gate to the car when I found out that we did finally get "the call". I remember putting my back up against a pillar in concourse B while I cried. Each trip away brought about another walk from Concourse B to the car. Each walk included an emotional appeal to God, “Please, please, please! Let Your promise finally come to fruition.”
         We did finally get our referral and appointment date. On August 7th, 2009, Jeannie and I walked through MEM on the first leg of our journey to Kazakhstan to meet the two new additions to our family. After two very long months, we returned to Memphis and walked down Concourse B. We choked back the flood of tears while holding tightly to the small hands of Alyosha and Zhenya. We were met by our older kids and a small group of wonderful friends. God had done what He had promised.
         For me, as long as it stands, MEM will be a monument, an Ebenezer, to God's grace and provision in our lives. Maybe when you walk through Memphis International, coming or going, making a connection, you will look at the pillars along Concourse B and be reminded also that God is faithful to do what He promised.

“Then Samuel too a stone and set it up between MIzpah and Shen and called its name Ebenezer (stone of the help), for he said, ‘Till now the Lord has helped us.’”
1 Samuel 7:12 (ESV)

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Hope and Fear in Pulandian


The city of Pulandian, China does not come to life, it turns on. It is as though somewhere there is a giant switch someone throws and the city is instantly on. This “turning on” happens at 5:00am and usually includes some fireworks announcing the opening of a new store or someone’s birthday. The intersection outside my hotel window becomes instantly crowded with honking cars and grumbling trucks. At 6:00am the sidewalks and street fill with children walking to the nearby school, the honking increases accordingly.
            Pulandian is considered a small town here in China. I guess when you measure your country population in billions and consider a large crowd to be a million people, 400,000 people is not very large. It is an industrial city where foreigners work, but do not live or visit. I tended to stand out in the crowd here, not so much because I am a bald white man, but because I was surrounded by people who were very interested in why a bald white man would come to the city square in Pulandian. They were curious why I would be curious about something as simple as their “small” town.
            They had a point, at least a partial one if there is such a thing. As far as cities go, Pulandian is one of the dirtier ones I have been in. There are some areas that are strewn with rubbish, just like any city, but Pulandian is covered in a layer of dust. Everything is dusty from the 30 plus days they have gone without rain. Add to that the never ceasing construction and the factories dispersed around the city and you have a city that is under a constant haze.            
            But within the city, when you cut through the dust and smog, there are the faces of beautiful people. The older men and women have faces that are filled with laugh lines and the corners of their eyes hold the tell tale signs of a quick wit, despite the years of war, revolution, famine, and poverty.
            The children are filled with the innocence of ignorance. Their laughter and noise echoes off the buildings as they walk home from school. It is like a flock of jolly migratory birds. The boys hoot and laugh, pushing and shoving each other as boys are want to do. The girls walk arm-in-arm, giggling and whispering to each other.
            In the middle of these two age groups are the faces that carry all of the doubt and fear. The faces of the fathers and mothers, who are also sons and daughters, are filled with a sense of burden, as though they are carrying too much on their backs and cannot find relief, even when they sleep.
            My colleague, tour guide, and interpreter Joe has one of those faces. He allows smiles and laughter to break through on occasion, but when the moment is gone, it reverts to a look of worry. Joe is one of the “one child policy” generation. He is an only child, as are most of his peers, as a result of government policy to limit citizens to one child each (unless you have the boatload of cash to pay the “fine”). His wife is also an only child. Together they will only have one child. And together they will care for their four aging parents. Joe has responsibility for 6 people riding on his shoulders and his alone. He admits it is quite a burden and he doesn’t know quite how to handle it.
            Another colleague, Maggie, also has a face full of worry, but her face also carries a sadness that fills in any laugh lines that may be trying to form. She is also an only child. She proudly told me her “Papa” and “Mama” both work in the aerospace industry. She does not worry so much about taking care of her parents; she feels it is her duty. She does worry that she will never find love. In a country where men out number women by a significant majority, I callously scoffed at the idea when she proposed it. I told her she could have her pick, line them up and pick the one you want. Her face grew sadder, reflecting a lifetime of being considered the lesser because she was a girl. She told me how parents are disappointed when they have a girl. “If they know it is a girl, they will not let it be born. They only want boys.”
            In their lifetimes, Maggie and Joe will experience more loss than life. Joe will experience the loss of four loved ones when his parents and in-laws pass away, but will experience the joy of adding to the family only once, a four to one ratio. I wonder how this imbalance will affect the psyches of an entire generation. I wonder how they will cope with the loss. I see the tinges of hopelessness in their eyes. I wonder if they will ever discover the only hope that will sustain them, the hope of Jesus Christ.